The Law of Attraction

Have you heard about the law of attraction? Has anyone let you in on the secret? Well if not, I will. The Law Attraction goes a little something like this: whatever you think, however you see yourself and wherever you envision yourself going..is what will manifest in real terms. The law of attraction simply states that if you think negatively, you will attract negative outcomes but if you think positively then you will attract all that is positive.

The Law of Attraction is real, more real than we ever imagined. Author Louise Hay, considered mother of positive thinking states: "Every time we think a thought, every time we speak a word, the universe is listening and responding to us." If you constantly find yourself disappointed, unsuccessful at business ventures, career changes and more then you must examine your thought process. When it comes to applying for a job or starting a new business, are you constantly doubting yourself? Or thinking about the "what ifs" before you even start--these thoughts could be hindering your progress. What you think manifests into who you are and how the world will perceive you.

Let's start off with something small,  read a positive quote or affirmation everyday for the next two months. It will put your mind in line with positive thinking. Reading just a sentence to help kick-start your mind on thinking about all things that are good and lofty will have a direct impact on your life as well and your behavior. Try it, and let Putting Your Best Self Forward know how it has affected you.

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Deal With It

Whatever it is, deal with it. If its anger, hurt, betrayal, failure, disappointment...deal with it. Do not torture yourself by literally "dealing with it" you need to deal with it by getting to the root of the problem. What's holding you back? What are you afraid of? Is it failure, is it lack of finances, is it a lack of support system that continues to put you in a never-ending rut? Now is the time to address the issue.

You cannot move forward in life if you refuse to deal with certain issues that seems to always creep up and throw you off your game. 2012 is the year of moving forward and moving higher and in order to do so--you must first identify any area, issue or person in your life whether in the past or present that is affecting you to fully move forward. Second you must find the power and confidence in yourself not only to rise above it but to be woman and man enough to address it. We all are led to believe that the classy and most sophisticated way of handling certain issues and people is to not deal with it, to act as if your above it. But, I've learned that, that is pointless at times because it never offers a solution to the problem. Some issues need to be addressed once and for all. And lastly, put your pride and upscale attitude to the side and give your issues a "one time only shot" to stay clear and out of your way.

We all go through many issues, become offended at the slightest remarks and hold grudges even though we say to ourselves and the world that we are true forgivers but ultimately in order to move forward you must deal with it, let it go and then let God or Life take its course.

All the Best,
Yetunde



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Truth Be Told

10 Truths to Life

Truth #1: There is only one you. Therefore be the best that you can be, life is too short not to put your best self forward.

Truth #2: Beware of the company you keep, they can either put on track or throw you off. Friends, associates, business partners and more should be chosen wisely.

Truth # 3: You cannot love others, if you don't love yourself. Self-esteem and self-confidence must be nurtured within. You cannot take the world by force if you are constantly struggling with your insecurities.

Truth # 4: You cannot be a mentor or friend to someone else if you are in constant competition with others. Constant competition is an outward sign of inward insecurities. Be careful.

Truth # 5: Don't waste your time trying to imitate or duplicate someone elses business idea, venture or profession. You too have something unique and distinctive to offer and you do yourself and the world a dis-service when you take the short cut to success.

Truth # 6: Girlfriend are you truly happy for me? Its a tough question to think about but its real. Not every woman will be happy for you regardless of the position they play in your life. Jealousy is real and unfortunately consumes many.

Truth # 7: You cannot have a meaningful relationship with a man or woman if you don't get yourself together-emotionally. Don't short change yourself.

Truth # 8: Everyone is special but there are some people who are luminously special. Let them shine, let them soar and let them fulfill their purpose. Trust me, the world needs them.

Truth# 9: Let it go. Whatever was done, let it go.

Truth # 10: Whatever was lost can still be found. Whatever was destroyed can still be restored. And whatever was broken can still be repaired...if your willing to work at it.

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When You Know Better-You DO Better

The adage goes, "When you know better you do better," Maya Angelou could not have said it any better. I'm writing this article, for WOMEN only--because somethings just need to be said to you and for you. Each woman has a responsibility whether knowingly and unknowingly to be a role model for other women whether young or old. The saying-"lead by example" carries significant weight. Young women need to look to their left and right and be able to point to women who are going to support, guide and mold them.

Because when you know better you do better...you act better, you pray better, you behave better, you make better decisions...everything becomes better! Living your life by this mantra will force you to be a better person in totality. It will also force you to expect the same behavior from others. Sadly, not everyone can claim this mantra, not everyone knows better further hindering themselves of doing better. But, Putting Your Best Forward will help you to, "Know Better and Do Better." The amount of time you invest in your success, you also must invest that in yourself and in others.

So I am holding every woman to it...DO BETTER. No more excuses, no more irrational behavior, no more insecurity, no more what ifs, no more envy, no more wallowing in depression...no more. I need you to be your best and act like you know better.

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Managing Work, Love, Service and Play

The contemporary era requires of us to successfully juggle work, love, service and play. The emergence of globalization has changed the way in which we communicate, due to the development of advanced technology, the convergence of cultures, and a host of other benefits---but most importantly it has changed the way in which we conduct our daily lives. Today society requires more from us--more time, more energy, more goals, more attention...and the list goes on. So how do we successfully manage the increasing demands that society places upon us?

Management of Life becomes easy when you love everything you do. When you have a sincere passion and love for your work, your relationships, giving back and creating play time for yourself...life becomes more enjoyable. The key to successfully fulfilling all areas in your life is to make sure that you devote your time to fulfilling your passion. Find passion in your work, in your love life, in service and in play. Be passionate about life and everything else will seem so much easier.

Managing work, love, service and play will bring satisfaction and fulfillment. Make sure you see to it that all four of these compartments in your life are being nurtured in the way that it should be.

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Fulfilled & Fabulous: The Female Success Factor

You are a fabulous woman in all totality. Everyday you must remind yourself of how powerful and fabulous you are. The world needs you at your best--so daily positive affirmations are a must. So, today I am affirming and reminding you of your significance to this world. Your purpose, your strength, your emotions, your decisions, your style and intelligence is highly needed. Everyday is and will be a stepping stone into your magnificence.

Fulfilled and Fabulous is what you are. Your light cannot be threatened nor challenged. Your place and position can never be filled. You will and always will be the leader, the creator, the innovator, the trendsetter, the influential and much more. Without comprising yourself or values-you continue to blaze through the world. Every turning is a blessing, a gift, a reward, and an accomplishment. You are the epitome of "The Female Success Factor," so do not be afraid to shine, to stand out, to be and do your best and especially to look your best. Your light may intimidate others--but that's not your problem. Your on a mission to live out your God given purpose so people will just have to get used to your fabulousness.

The fulfilled and fabulous woman only surrounds herself with those who can produce and accept positivity. You should give yourself a round of applause, a standing ovation and a pat on the back--because your life produces goodness. Women who lack self-esteem, confidence, trust, self-love...have a hard time being around woman who exude such characteristics. Instead of constantly trying to keep up, subdue, or envy the fulfilled and fabulous--work on the areas in your life that will produce such qualities. The world needs every woman to be her best. Putting Your Best Self Forward Starts Now.

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Setting High Standards

Never apologize for setting high standards for yourself. Setting standards for yourself and those around you sends a distinct message to the world that you value yourself, your time and that of others.You realize that your life has meaning as well as purpose. Your relationships operate only under authenticity, respect and trust. Those who often set high standards for themselves tend to be highly selective  in choosing who they share their lives with. We all must be a little selective when it comes to choosing company.

By operating on higher standards, you continue to raise the bar higher. You raise the bar higher for yourself, friends, family and others. Every area in your life is challenged to do its best. In order to achieve your goals and produce effective work-you must challenge yourself. Reading the biographies of past and present global leaders in the fields of business, politics, technology, science and academics--will reveal to you that they all share a common thread: HIGH STANDARDS.

By challenging yourself, you are essentially aligning your thoughts to produce action. Your personal and public mantra shoud be, "Raising the Bar."  Brian Tracy states, “You can become an even more excellent person by constantly setting higher and higher standards for yourself and then by doing everything possible to live up to those standards.”

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Behind Every Successful Woman...

Behind every successful woman is HERSELF. You are the decision maker of your life.

You must always aspire to be the best. Do not settle for less. Women who walk with authority do not comprise their gifts and talents. They do not belittle their ideas, thoughts or actions. They are free from doubt--and believe wholeheartedly in their pursuit and purpose.

Your beliefs and passion for success will exudes and permeate through everyone you come in contact with. Do you believe that you have what it takes to walk with authority? To be successful? To be of service? All you need to do is condition your mind to think in correspondence with your actions.

Authority means to have persuasive force or conviction, mastery in execution or performance, confidence derived from experience or practice and freedom from doubt; belief in yourself and your abilities. Know who you are, know what you want to do, understand your beliefs, convey your values and morals not through speech but through actions. Know exactly what your existence wants to relay to the world. Spend time crafting your message. Your authenticity speaks volumes. Be a force to be reckoned with....rise above the calling to be mediocre, complacent and resentful. Remember, "Your playing small does not serve the world...you were meant to shine."

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Where Do You Place Your Security?

Security means to protect oneself or to be reassured against danger, loss, failure or damage. What makes you feel secure? Where do you place your security? Does being self-sufficient make you feel more secure? Does your education provide you with some sense of security? We spend years in school to secure our place in the global market and aim for high-paying jobs in order to be financially stable...but what happens when the notion of security changes?

Security is not only about being financially stable--having something to fall back on. In fact, security encompasses a myriad of things. Asking yourself about what makes you feel secure, or what you need in order to feel stable can not be solely determined by wealth or position. In fact, we see that the building of relationships are more profitable than relying on "the economic side of life." When you come to the realization that people contribute a great deal to your performance, security and well-being- your attitude towards people begin to change.

People are not indispensable. Relationships are cultivated to help you reach the next level. Don't get to caught up in the pursuit of your goals that you forget the power of building and cultivating relationships. Your "sense of security" is attached to your connection with people.

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Have You Found Your Purpose Yet?

Have you found your purpose yet? Do you know what your mission is? What are your dreams, goals and ambitions? These questions offer a constant reminder to make sure that we "make a life out of living." So many people pass through life without finding what it is they will genuinely and truly work for. Life is not about using your position, degrees or accomplishments to solely further your own self. Your position, degrees and accomplishments should be used as a tool to change someone elses life whether big or small. Yes, we may live in an individualistic society where the phrase, "Its all about me," has become the 21st century mantra...but realistically its not all about you. In fact, its not about you at all. Its about how YOU can fill in the void wherever necessary. It about the world will utilize YOUR life to achieve its goals.

If you recall, there were millions of people who have paved the way just for you. Those that you know and those that you will never meet...but remember that there were millions who did just for you. So, who are you not to do it for just one person? When has time become so limited that you forget the golden rules of life: To Pay It Forward. One thing about life is that-the law of attraction is real. Whatever or however you contribute to the world, it will come back you.

Finding your purpose is not about giving back in a grandiose way. Its about turning your skills, talents and gifts into the form of service. Because..."When you are inspired by some great purpose, some extraordinary project, all your thoughts break their bonds: Your mind transcends limitations, your consciousness expands in every direction, and you find yourself in a new, great, and wonderful world. Dormant forces, faculties and talents become alive, and you discover yourself to be a greater person by far than you ever dreamed yourself to be." —Patanjali

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When Being Selective Goes Too Far...

Have you come to a point in life where everyone you meet is given the "side eye?" Are you extremely selective when it comes to who you surround yourself with? Do you give people the benefit of the doubt or just "doubt?" These questions are raised to help you examine whether your choices and decision are actually healthy. We live in a society where we depend on social media to communicate with others. Social media has also provided us with the tools of "picking and choosing." But picking and choosing are sometimes unhealthy. We end not giving people a chance to just be themselves.

As we all know, everyone is fighting their own battle. We should not get so caught up in ourselves and our over-top expectations of others-that we loose out on forming healthy relationships. We need to give people a chance. A chance to be a friend, a sister, a colleague, a brother and more. Its great to be selective but you have to understand that others need you...especially those who have never met before.

Don't be an obstacle to yourself. Don't make your guard so high that no one will be able to jump over. Don't be so selective to the point where you become dis-attached to reality as well as developing relationships. Building relationships is extremely important. Life is all about the relationships you build, do not limit your life and what you can develop out of it just because you've taken "picking and choosing," way too far.

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The Power of Being Grateful

There is power in being grateful. Being grateful means that you appreciate and have a sense of gratitude for everything that comes your way. Being grateful opens the door to more opportunities and blessings and it shuts the door of hopelessness and discontent. Many of us go through life complaining and not realizing how blessed and lucky we are. If you stop and think for a second about how lucky, blessed and favored you are despite it all-you will begin to realize that instead of complaining-you need to be GRATEFUL.

When you adopt a sense of gratefulness, you being to realize that all good and bad things have worked divinely in your favor. Grateful people are able to see the good in bad. They are able to turn every disappointment into an achievement and every experience into life long lesson. Gratitude brings success and in order to sustain success-you need to be genuinely grateful. Knowing the importance of being grateful is not enough-you must live it, show it and be it.

Grateful people understand that their level of success is not by their own doing. They understand that they are a tiny piece of fabric in a whole quilt. Gratefulness brings humility, because you realize that without the power of God, the care and will of good people, and divine life experiences...."Where would you be?" With all that life has given you, you ought to be grateful.

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Just Ask!

There is power in knowing what you want and letting the world know exactly what it is you desire and need. We all have lofty dreams and desires and simple wants and needs which at times cannot be produced by our own efforts alone. You need to realize that your desires, wants and needs are at times in the hands of someone else. It may be a complete stranger, friend, co-worker, boss, colleague or family-member that knows the answer, holds the key, or has the map to show you the way. But, how will anyone know what it is you need, want or desire if you don't ask or speak up.

At times we become so arrogant in our talents, skills, knowledge and experience that we forget to ask for help. We believe that we can do it all on our own-our society leads us to believe this fallacy. YOU may know how great you are but sometimes you just need to SAY it. Sometimes you need to ask your boss for a raise or a promotion even if you feel they should already know. Sometimes you need to bring attention to whatever it is you feel is already evident-don't take it personal...these are the tricks and trades of life. Sometimes you need to just simply ask or tell, do not be afraid to say what it is you feel and want--if you believe then you will receive. The universe does not have a choice but to align with your wishes and commands.

Lois P. Frankel, PhD, said it best, "Nice girls don't ask, but smart women do. Nice girls don't get the corner office." Its great to be nice, but you need to be nice and smart...be strategic. In essence, be bold, be powerful and speak up. You have every right to experience the fruits of your labor. Don't underestimate the power of asking nor the power of people to give you exactly what it is you want and DESERVE! BE BOLD and JUST ASK!

I recommend you buying the book above: "Ask For It," by author Linda Babcock and Sara Laschever.


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Speak LIFE to Your Life

Speak words that will edify and uplift you to newer heights. You don't have to wait for the new self-help book, a quote or friendly advice...you have the power to change your emotions, thought process and outlook on life. Once we understand that within us and through us...holds a multitude of power and energy that can transform any darkness into light, any sickness into wholeness and any fear into faith...thats when life fully begins.

Speak Life into your life. Speak of great things to come. Expect only the best and do not settle nothing less. Envision only good things happening in your life and that is what will happen. James Allen said it best, "Dream lofty dreams, and as you dream, so shall you become. Your vision is the promise of what you shall one day be; your ideal is the prophecy of what you shall at last unveil." God gives your the vision and grace, now its your job to make sure that vision comes to fruition--you already have the grace to carry you through---all you need is to tap into your power and the rest will follow.

By speaking words that will edify and bring life, you automatically change your thought process. You begin to look at situations in a different perspective. You become more grateful and thankful...things or situations that may upset you are no longer given the power to do so. Your words, thought process, and outlook on life have everything to do with the type of life you want live and lead, the type of person you want to be and present, and type of person you are to yourself and others.


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The Importance of Taking Care of Yourself

The most important thing in this world is-YOU! We too often neglect ourselves in order to give attention to all the areas in our lives. Your health and well-being should never be comprised by your own expense. You cannot be superman or superwoman without being super on the inside and out. Everyone needs a down time-a time to recuperate, reorganize, and re-energize. The world needs you at your best, therefore you must always give yourself the best.

We live in a society where we are constantly on the go. Every day comes with a new goal to be accomplished, a new relationship to nurture, new responsibilities to tend too...life does not stop. But, you hold the power to adjust it and re-shape it to your own speed. Although life goes on with or without you--your life does not go on without you. Your life needs YOU. In order to live the life you envisioned for yourself, you must take care of yourself. You should take the necessary steps to live a more wholesome and well-rounded life.

The importance of taking care of yourself goes far beyond the outer. It involves eating and living a healthy life, finding time to relax and rest, making sure you have your own alone time to rejuvenate, surrounding yourself with positive people who will not sap your energy, being able to say 'no,' and realizing that it is imperative to take care of yourself! Remember putting your best self forward is all about working towards being your best both inside and out.

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